Iingcali zengqondo zanamhlanje ziyaphikisana - ukuba zikoyike umntwana. I-psyche yenziwa ebuntwaneni, kwaye uloyiko olufihlakeleyo lunokuzibonakalisa nge-neurosis kunye neengxaki xa bekhulile. Ke ngoko, kweli nqaku asizukubenela amabali "ahlekisayo." Kodwa siza kunika izimvo ezi-5 eziya kuqondwa ngumntwana omncinci kwaye zinokukhuthaza ukuba aphume.
1 Ndixelele ukuba unokuphulukana noToy oyithandayo
Iithoyi zomntwana ziinqobo zayo. Umntu omncinci akafuni ukwahlukana nabo njengawe, kwaye kunjalo, ithemba elinjalo linokuyisikisa. Ukuba wake ungafumananga ibhere oyithandayo okanye umatshini wokuchwetheza kwi-bardaka, emva koko uloyiko lokuphulukana nento oyithandayo kwixesha elizayo elinokumlungelelanisa ukuba agobe iitrayi ezinqwenelekayo.
Ndixelele ukuba umntwana unokuphulukana nento yokudlala
2 Cacisa ukuba izinto neekthonga aziyi kufumana ndlela "Ikhaya"
Ugqirha wezengqondo onobuchule bathi-Chaza umntwana ingcinga, ethembela kumava akhe. Kule meko, lo mzekelo ulandelayo uya kufaneleka ukuba umntwana uye kwigadi yegadi / yaseJunior.
Bambalwa abantu abafuna ukuhlala egadini ixesha elide. Ewe, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukhumbule okungenani imeko enye, xa abazali besiqhwe ngequbuliso bekufika emva kwexesha, kwaye kwafuneka ulinde umama okanye uTata ixesha elide, ehleli ngutitshala. Kwabonakala ngathi ixesha lolulela ngokungapheliyo, kwaye abazali abanakuze bafike.
Ke, umntwana uyakoyika ukuba akasayi kubuya. Lowo uloyiko makakhathaze, kodwa kwenzeka phantse kwaye yonke into icacile kuye. Kwaye kuya kunceda ukukhuthaza ukususa izinto neethoyi.
Yiza nokuba banayo "nendlu". Yiyeke ibe yibhasikithi / ishelufa / ibhokisi, apho uhlala ugoba iithoyi. Kwaye uthi izinto zifuna "ikhaya", kwaye xa zishiywe zisasazeke, ziyaziva zibi kwaye zilusizi.
Ndixelele ukuba into yokudlala ayiyi kuyifumana indlela egodukayo
3 Yiza nentsomi. Vumela igorha eliyintloko libe libi ngenxa yokuba umntwana akafuni kucinywa
Nawuphi na umsebenzi uya kubonakala ngathi ulula ukuba uyiguqula kumdlalo kwaye wenze umdla. Yiza nentsomi, apho iqhawe eliyintloko liya kufuneka kakhulu ngezinto okanye inkunkuma esasaze umntwana.
Ke, umzekelo, kwincwadi ethi "Umntwana ozimeleyo, okanye ungabi" ngumama olivila "ngu-ANNA Bokov uzisa lo mzekelo ulandelayo 'wentsomi".
Inkwenkwe kaSasha yasasazeka kumgangatho wephepha, yatsho unina ukuba yayilikhephu. Ikhephu, ngokuqinisekileyo, alifuni ukucoca ikhephu, ikhephu kwimozulu efudumeleyo. Oyena mama obalaseleyo waxelela uSasa ukuba uSanta Claus kwenye indawo ekude nelusizi, akaphelelwa likhephu. Kwaye ukuba i-SASH ayiqokeleli ikhephu kutatomkhulu, uya kuba mbi. USasha wayekholelwa, kwaye umama wafaka iphakheji kwi-balcony, esithi utat'omkhulu rust apho uya kuthatha.
Yiza nentsomi
4 Ndixelele ukuba yintoni le ihlambulayo
Nanku omnye umzekelo ovela kwincwadi. Utata wahlala unyuke ngebali elilandelayo kunyana olandelayo. Ngokuhlwa, xa umntwana walala ubuthongo, wamisela iithoyi ezininzi phambi komnyango wokungahambi. Ekuseni, xa umntwana waphakama wababona kwipaseji, bamangaliswa kakhulu. Abazali bachaza ukuba iithoyi zifuna ukumka kuye - Uguqukela kakubi, akazisusi kwaye amagqabi asasazeke.
Iqela lezinto ezininzi zikaTata zifihliwe kwangaphambili ukuze umntwana afumane - ezinye izinto zokudlala ezihamba ngokukhawuleza sele zibalekile.
Umgaqo usekwe kwimvakalelo efanayo yobunini kunye noloyiko lokuphulukana- akunakwenzeka ukuba udlale kwaye udlale iithoyi zimka nje. Le ndlela iya kukunceda ngobuchule nakuMntwana wakho oqinisekileyo ukuchaza-Lowo ucoca ococa.
Xelela umntwana wakho ukuba adlale kuphela emva kokucoca
5 Veza ukuphoxeka
Ukukhubekisa umama, woyika umntwana omncinci, ngokuba lihlabathi liphela. Ndixelele indlela ocaphuka ngayo sisibakala sokuba akafuni ukususa iithoyi. Kodwa musa ukuyigqithisela kwaye ungatsaleli izihlobo: umntwana akafanele azive "kakubi." Uyamthanda nawuphi na, kodwa inyani yokuba usasaza izinto-ukhathaza umzali.