Leave the time to rest, do not forget to thank the household and discuss all the details of the repair in advance - we tell you what to do to keep good relationships and survive the repair without emotional shocks.
1 Discuss the three most important points.
Before you start choosing the curtains and color of the wallpaper in the corridor, gather with households and discuss the three important points on which the repair is based.
- Time. This is an important and non-refundable resource, and each of you should clearly represent how many hours a week he is ready to pay for the purchase of furniture and materials, painting of the walls and the study of the instructions for installing the toilet. Also discuss how many weeks or months are you willing to live in noise, dust, confusion in things and discomfort. At the same time try not to overestimate your strength and not heroge.
- Money. Consider what amount you already have and what part of income each of you is ready to make every month. Do not forget that in such a nervous time to give up all spending, except for necessary, is not the best idea, since you still need to find the opportunity to please yourself by a campaign in a cafe or buy some optional little things at least occasionally.
- Quality. The views of all those who participate in the repair must also coincide in this moment. Discuss how they are scrupulous about small flaws, are interesting designer decisions, are you important to serial furniture from a popular store or you want a unique kitchen set from Italy.
At the same time, highlight at least one of these items, which you will be ready to sacrifice if necessary. Most often, this particular victim is the cause of disputes, for example, someone is ready to devote every weekend during a couple of years to repair, but to save a family budget, and someone easier to sacrifice money.
2 Do not forget about the main thing
Repair takes a lot of strength, time and nerves. Wallpapers are crooked, paint after drying is not the shade that you wanted, and the budget gradually comes out for the planned framework. Absolutely normal at a busy moment to give in to emotions and start behaving ugly.
Get yourself a rule: as soon as the atmosphere began to heat up, stop the work, disappear into different rooms, drink coffee or tea, walk the dog and remember that everything is not so bad, and people around you are inserted as far as possible. List all the good things that they have already done, as they were useful and helped. Return in good mood, restore the friendly atmosphere and continue repairs. It will end sooner or later, so you need to keep with all the good relations.
3 Assign Time for Rest
Try not to divert all your free time and do not demand this from households. Make a work plan for the week and be sure to leave the time for a joint vacation, for example, watching a movie, and personal time. It is not always easy to spend time for hard work in the family of the family and sometimes it is necessary to be in silence and alone.
If this is not done, very quickly all participants will begin emotional burnout, the desire will appear to catch up from repairing under a favorable fictional pretext, and this inevitably leads to conflict.
4 Remember about politeness and gratitude
In teamwork, it is important to be able to be able to not only glue the wallpaper and install the outlets, but also to maintain environmentally friendly communication with others. Teach yourself politely and gently make up your requests, even if you already stumble about the hammer, left by someone on the floor, thank for each small help. Do not forget to praise someone who managed to collect a wardrobe or make drawings, find an elegant solution to some kind of problem.
5 Use the strengths
Remember about your strengths and weaknesses and take into account these factors in others. Someone can patiently assemble all documents for redevelopment, someone likes to ride a construction store, and someone loves to collect furniture. Charge to each thing that he is good, and do not forced to do what it does not work and do not like.
